Descriptionimage 07592324612x612.jpg (58.2kB)#1 You can love someone who doesn’t love you back. If this happens to you can decide to continue loving that person from a distance or you can find someone who loves you equally. The truth of the matter is that love is not always reciprocated.
#2 You can have more than one love in a lifetime. Remind me to tell you the story about my High School sweetheart C.D. (trying to protect his innocence lol, but if you went to High School with me YOU KNOW who I’m talking about). I loved him deeply, passionately and madly. He broke my heart when I found out that he had gotten another girl pregnant while dating me… Needless to say I DID live to see another day and eventually I found another love. I still have those positive memories about C.D…
#3 Sex is the quickest way to confuse your love meter. It’s a scientific fact. Q-Tip had it right when he said “Kissed my cheek, moved in, you confused things…” Sex may make you feel or see something there that isn’t. Sex may make you stay somewhere where you shouldn’t. It’s hard to think clearly once you’ve exchanged bodily fluids with someone!
#4 There are different types of love. There is romantic love. There is platonic love. There is paternal & maternal love. The list goes on and on.
#5 Self love is the foundation of healthy love. If you love yourself, you maintain certain standards. If you have low self-esteem or confidence, it makes it easy for others to take advantage of you.
#6 No one can leave when they don’t want to leave or stay where they don’t want to stay. This goes to all of the people who are “side chicks” or “creeps.” If she can ONLY text you, that’s a problem! If he is soooo unhappy at home… then he could leave. This is one of the best lessons my husband taught me. When we got together we were both with other people. One day he told me “I don’t want to hear about your bad relationship if you’re not going to do anything about it.” I just needed a reminder that I was MAKING A CHOICE to be in a bad situation! Don’t allow yourself to be used or strung along by someone making empty promises.
#7 Individuals committed to each other define their own norms. You decide the norms for your relationship. There are some people who couldn’t stand the idea of a large portion of their relationship being long distance – they could never date someone who had to travel for work or who was in the military. For some couples that is the norm. Some couple share the household duties while others are pretty traditional in their approach. Remember that what works for other couples may not work for you and your partner. You determine the rules.
#8 Success attracts distractions. Whenever you “get your swagger” back or whenever you’re knee deep in a healthy relationship, they come a-running lol. It seems like everything I was in a good relationship a blast from the past would finally come to his senses and contact me. Too little, too late. When you’re successful in your career or you have a healthy social life, you ooze confidence, positivity and happiness and it smells like pie to the outside world.
#9 You teach people how to treat (or mistreat) you. You have to have standards and demand a certain level of respect. If someone keeps doing something bad to you, it is because you are giving them permission to…
#10 The best relationships require the most work. Good relationships require constant communication, negotiation and compromise.
#11 Having a baby is never a solution to saving a broken relationship neither is having sex. If your relationship is crappy, having a baby will only make the crap explode. Having a baby should be a mutual decision! The same thing with sex. Good sex does not equal a good relationship. If that’s all you have, then it’s not really a relationship, it’s something else.
#12 Communicate from your own feelings and thoughts. Use I statements… You have the right to feel and to think and to express those feelings and thoughts to your partner.
#13 People express love differently. Communicate your needs and preferences and don’t assume the other person knows them. What do you like? What do you need? If you feel like your partner is not paying enough attention to you… TELL HIM OR HER! Sometimes we get frustrated because we communicate our feelings non-verbally eye rolls, faint voice, full-out tantrum, but if we don’t communicate THE SOURCE of our feelings, it’s just wasted energy and it is not fair to our partners.
#14 Love is a choice that requires two committed partners. Love is a choice… Love is a choice… It is a choice that BOTH parties have to make… If one person decides to stop showing love… the other party has to respond accordingly. We can say what we want about Gabby Union & D. Wade but they both have made a choice to keep loving each other…
#15 Time is the most important gift you have. Diamonds are nice… flowers are nice… but time… undivided, uninterrupted time is the most precious thing you can give another person.
#16 Sacrifice is the ultimate expression of love. Sacrifice is the opposite of selfishness. Sacrifice means giving something up, repressing something, sharing something with another being. When I think of sacrifice I think of Jesus, which is why sacrifice is the ultimate expression of love.
#17 There are ups and downs in a relationship but there should be more ups than downs. If you are more unhappy than happy in your relationship, you should re-evaluate things.
#18 Trust your instincts, they are rarely wrong. Pretty self explanatory. My instincts are usually 99.9999999999995% correct. I’m sure that is the same for most people.
#19 Pay attention to your patterns. Think about the last three people you’ve dated and make a list of what they have in common. I’d bet money that there are so many similarities it may scare you. We all have a type and for better or for worse, it is important to be conscious of that.
#20 Give the type of love you want to receive. I’ll never forget the first time I gave my husband a foot massage. It was when we were dating and he told me he’d never had a full foot rub from a romantic partner like that. I was flabbergasted! This foot massage is a regular part of our routine. Shortly after that foot massage I started getting these AMAZING foot massages from him. He told me he wanted to make me feel as good as I made him feel. I say all of that to say… GIVE the type of love you want to receive. Give the type of affection you want to experience. Say the type of things you want to hear. In a healthy relationship, your partner will mirror you…
Tyler’s latest vid has a few minutes of good in-field footage at the start where he makes out with a girl with a boyfriend, instigates a 3-way makeout, and pulls a 3-some:
Remember, that’s THIS balding pale ginger 5’9″ super stud lol:
I’ve been discouraged and frustrated lately. As an illustrative example of something that happens to me all the time:
I see HB9 at bar. Approach, comfort, rapport, etc.
Then I get her outside for a smoke, number close, kiss close, I’m on my way.
Text her 2 days later “lets grab drinks”. No response. Feels bad man. Delete number so I don’t chump out and text again. Another night alone with Netflix, lol.
I guess numbers are worthless these days. If you can’t get the SNL, might as well move on. Only way to do it with women becoming increasingly whorish and flaky.
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Conférence le mercredi 29 janvier dans le cadre des rencontres de l'écologie au quotidien de DIE "coopérer pour un territoire vivant"
École Notre-Dame 17H
Texte de présentation dans le programme
"La métamorphose de la chenille en papillon est une des plus complexes dans le vivant, essentielle à la résurgence des capacités de vie. Notre devenir se pose dans l’émergence d’indispensables et profondes transformations, de l'intime au planétaire, tissant vulnérabilité et robustesse, par des voies multiples à conjuguer.
Julie Chabaud, psychosociologue terrestre, à partir d’un écrit d’Edgar Morin, sociologue et philosophe - Résonance locale: des témoins de cette transformation émergente"
Je serai à Die du 28 janvier au 2 février (magnifique programme !). Peut-être l'occasion de se rencontrer ?
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Je présenterai une exposition autour du Labo Furtif lors du Séminaire international de Dakar "regards croisés sur le prendre soin" du 8 au 10 avril à Agadir.
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Framasoft, c’est une association d’éducation populaire, un groupe d’ami·es convaincu·es qu’un monde numérique émancipateur est possible, persuadé·es qu’il adviendra grâce à des actions concrètes sur le terrain et en ligne avec vous et pour vous !
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Objectif général : Développer des compétences de conception, de transmission et d’animation de démarches prospectives participatives.
Objectifs spécifiques :
Appréhender la notion de prospective participative et son usage dans des démarches territoriales
Construire une démarche de prospective participative
Analyser la capacité d’une démarche de prospective à transformer le réel et anticiper les biais potentiels
Produire et entretenir collectivement des ressources (#Communs)
Former à la prospective et contribuer à démultiplier les pratiques
Pré-requis
Avoir un projet support (un territoire, un projet, un contexte, un groupe avec qui expérimenter des démarches prospective)
Avoir une pratique de base de l’animation de groupe
Public :
Les Agents Publics territoriaux qui animent un territoire, un réseau, un projet, un collectif : chef de projet, directeur ou chargée de mission innovation et transition écologique- coordonnateur de projet de développement - Animateur-Facilitateur - Agent de développement territorial (quartier, ville, département…)
Formateurs et intervenants : pour accompagner les porteurs de projets dans les collectivités territoriales
Durée : Bordeaux 3 jours : du 12 au 14 mars 2025
Lieu de la formation : CNFPT Bordeaux 71 allée Jean Giono 33000 Bordeaux
Effectif : 15 participants
Intervenante : Julie Chabaud et Manuel Ibanez
Atterrir sur un monde de fluctuations et s’inspirer du vivant
Découvrir la notion de robustesse, ses liens avec les vulnérabilités et la résilience territoriale
Questionner nos logiques de pensées et essayer un nouveau regard sur l’addiction à la performance
S’initier à faire passer des tests de robustesse à vos idées, projets, stratégies ou intentions.
Initier et faire vivre une communauté apprenante sur la robustesse dans son organisation, sa communauté ou son territoire
Il n'y a pas de prérequis pour participer à cette formation
Public :
Les Agents Publics territoriaux qui animent un territoire, un réseau, un projet, un collectif : chef de projet, directeur ou chargée de mission innovation et transition écologique- coordonnateur de projet de développement - Animateur-Facilitateur - Agent de développement territorial (quartier, ville, département…)
Formateurs et intervenants : pour accompagner les porteurs de projets dans les collectivités territoriales
Durée : 2 jours, 13 -14 mai 2025
Lieu de la formation : CNFPT Bordeaux 71 allée Jean Giono 33000 Bordeaux Effectif : 15 participants
Intervenante : Julie Chabaud
Je me forme - Form'action - démultiplicatrice de la robustesse
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OBJECTIF : créer une communauté de personnes capables d'intervenir dans différents contextes et publics pour informer, former sur la robustesse (via des conférences, conférences gesticulées, formation courte, longue, spectacle...) Cette form'action est organisée par Laurent Marseault (cocotier.xyz) et Gatien Bataille (cooptic.be) avec évidemment la participation et le parrainage d'Olivier Hamant.
Je me forme - Jeux sensibles, à l'Ecole des vivants
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Penser le gamedesign au-delà des règles ; ateliers pour pratiquer, comprendre et faire vos jeux
Les ateliers de ce programme sont nourris d’un désir de transmettre : réfléchir à la créativité du gamedesign, jouer un paysage sonore, narrer de manière « interactive », appréhender la sensibilité que l’on peut apporter dans l’élaboration de règles de jeux…
Ils se feront autour d’une table, devant un ordinateur, dans un potager, sur une montagne ou les pieds sous l’eau.
Un temps de réflexion, de jeu, et d’expérimentation in situ.
Je suis guide d'itinérance avec des ânes sur les chemins de la robustesse de l'intime au planétaire
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L’itinérance « Robustesse et transformations, de l’intime au planétaire » invite à un voyage intérieur et extérieur, en quête de la robustesse nécessaire pour faire face aux incertitudes ainsi qu'aux défis individuels et collectifs.
Ce stage propose une exploration profonde du lien que nous entretenons avec le milieu naturel et les non-humains, en particulier ici avec les ânes, pour apprendre à ralentir, à se tisser au vivant, à rétablir un équilibre intérieur et à se disposer pour contribuer aux transformations sociétales.
Nous partirons de nos intentions et de nos concernements pour cheminer au rythme du pas des ânes et en attention aux autres, humains et non-humains, sur les chemins de la robustesse intérieure et collective. En fin de parcours nous explorerons d'autres manières robustes et coopératives d'habiter avec les habitants d'un village de moyenne montagne (Occitanie).
Le nombre de places sera limité (8) donc si cela vous intéresse, faites nous signe pour que nous en échangions ! Nous cocréerons l'expérience avec vous.
Ce stage est proposé par le labo "Rêve de Dan'A" qui vise à apprendre autrement, ensemble et avec le vivant dans
le superbe parc régional du Haut Languedoc. Les ânes sont nos compagnons, portent nos bagages et font partie de l'équipe pédagogique. Vous apprendrez à les guider dans une relation bienveillante et en présence. Nous marcherons chaque jour entre 7 à 12 km.
Contacts des accompagnatrices : cecilejoly@posteo.net et julie.chabaud@posteo.net
Searching for creative date ideas? Is "date night" this week and you want to do something a little different? Tired of "dinner and a movie" dates? Want to have a date that will really be memorable? Here are a few fun
date ideas.
This article is a supplement to "Unique, Memorable Date Ideas for Couples". (Click here to read it.) If none of these date ideas work for you, be sure to check it out.
Fun and Creative Date Idea #1: A Progressive Dinner Date
One unique and exciting date idea is to take a "progressive dinner" date. This one is a little costly, but it will be fun and create lots of memories. It is best for a weekday night, but of course you can do this on the weekends too. Visit a different restaurant for a different course of the meal. For example, you might start at one restaurant and just order some appetizers. Then go to another restaurant for a light meal. Then visit another spot for a dessert. And, finally, stop at another restaurant or a coffee shop for some coffee. It's a creative date that you won't forget!
Fun and Creative Date Idea #2: Take a Factory Tour Together
This is a creative date with an educational twist. There are many factories around the US that offer tours to the public. Visit www.factorytoursusa.com to find ones near you. This of course is probably not the most romantic date, but it will definitely be entertaining (hopefully) and fun. It's unusual but is a great way to spend quality time together.
Fun and Creative Date Idea #3: Put a Puzzle Together
Want to have a date at home? One creative date idea is to put a puzzle together. Purchase one that you really like, and wouldn't mind hanging on the wall. If you complete it together (it might take several dates) you can glue the pieces for a nice memento. And, if you get married someday, it will be something to hang on the wall in your first home. It's a great way to spend time visiting together and enjoying each other's company.
Mini-résidence théâtre cirque sur les métamorphoses
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Edgar Morin nous invite régulièrement à avoir "confiance en l'improbable".
Du 3 au 7 mars, nous testons un labo de recherche artistico-citoyenne, mini-résidence théâtre et cirque, autour de la pensée d'Edgar Morin, de la complexité et des métamorphoses. Cette exploration est menée avec Philippe Piau (comédien et metteur en scène de théâtre), lucie LASTELLA (artiste de cirque, Roue Cyr) et moi (ce sera une première !).
Elle se tisse avec les membres du cercle métamorphoses que nous co-animons avec Céline PORET et Patrick Viveret depuis la sortie de notre livre-chantier "La traversée. Du temps des chenilles à celui des métamorphoses" paru aux éditions Les Liens qui Libèrent en 2023. En savoir plus sur ce cercle : https://lnkd.in/eS5k5Xuy
Elle est aussi l'occasion de rencontres fertiles avec l'Université Populaire Edgar Morin pour la Métamorphose , l'association TERRES EFC Occitanie et l'équipe du Centre Culturel du quartier Reynerie qui nous accueille généreusement dans le cadre d'un partenariat avec Toulouse – Mairie et Métropole .
Le mercredi nous aurons un temps d'échanges avec les enfants et les familles du quartier de la Reynerie et le vendredi vous êtes les bienvenu.e.s en matinée pour partager le fruit de nos recherches et vos premières impressions (sur inscription).
« Je pense qu’il faut bâtir une nouvelle espérance. Je ne suis pas pessimiste,
car on voit une réaction un peu partout. Ce sont des îlots de résistance à
l’empire de l’argent, des oasis de convivialité, de fraternité. Ils ne donnent pas une espérance globale, mais une espérance locale, temporaire, qui peut être un point de départ. »
« L’improbable mais possible est la métamorphose. »
Edgar Morin
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Enregistrement en public du podcast avec les Jardiniers du Nous animé par Marie Balayer-Brasier
"Rejoignez-nous pour un épisode transformateur avec Julie Chabaud. Nous allons faire une plongée dans le monde des métamorphoses très humaines. Julie nous guidera dans ces voies sensibles, positives et furtives vers ce qui pourrait advenir d’ « une société plus solidaire, plus équitable et plus consciente ». Quelles sont les transformations essentielles pour faire face aux défis contemporains ? Comment redonner du sens à nos actions ?
Lien visio : https://us02web.zoom.us/j/8769341986?omn=84456984868 "
I'm a little tipsy on an empty stomach right now, so this is going to be blunt and very stream-of-consciousness.
Saw New Guy tonight -- we went out with our two mutual friends. Before the friends arrived, we were catching up, and he casually mentioned that he's been dating someone -- I think he said it's been going on a month or two. He's been clear with her that he doesn't know what he wants, and he's not exactly looking for a quote-unquote "relationship" right now (just to reiterate, he and I have been in the "friend zone" for a few months now... but the attraction pops up now and then -- we kissed the last time we saw each other, about a month ago).
Anyway... just hearing that he was dating someone put a knife in my heart, and it occurred to me: I still have feelings for this guy. He's really an amazing, exceptional guy, and it's hard for me NOT to have these feelings for him. It sucks.
It does help to know that even if he wasn't dating this other woman, we wouldn't exactly be in a "relationship" per se, since he's just not in that place. Still... I'd rather him not be dating anyone else, and for us to just have occasional dalliances... anyway... onward.
and yes, I know it's hypocritical for me to not want him to date other people, when of course, I AM dating other guys. Did I ever claim to be rational in matters of love?
fyi -- as far as I know, he has no idea I have these feelings for him. Unless he somehow senses it intuitively... but I think I've been doing a pretty good job playing it cool.
But -- some good news:
Had a second date with Mr. Recurring -- the thought of him makes me smile. It was a fabulous date -- drinks, then dinner, then a bit of smooching. Towards the end of the date (I wish I could remember the context), he started listing the things he likes about me: he thinks I'm easy to talk to, smart, fun, easy on the eyes. Next date is set for this weekend -- I'm excited about him.
Had another first date (#125) this week. I'm not sure what to think of him yet -- good looking, smart, gregarious... and short. He's about my height. For now, let's call him Martin - as in, Martin Short. He left a message on my voicemail tonight -- I'd see him again.
No word from WTF after our second date last weekend -- 100% ok by me.
I'd been having that fun-flirty-single feeling since Camper and I broke up -- but only tonight, those pangs of wanting to be in a relationship came pounding on my door again.
